Worried that Mr. Right has passed you by? No way, say the experts! And they’ve got the secrets for making a great match—and keeping your relationship strong—no matter what your age!

You’ve succeeded at more things than you probably give yourself credit for. And that’s important to remember when you’re looking for romance, says dating coach Bobbi Palmer. “Make a list of the attributes—optimism, perseverance, compassion—that have brought you success in different aspects of your life from work to friendships,” she suggests. “On a second list, write down what you want to feel in a relationship, perhaps safe, understood, adored. By writing what you want to feel instead of stricter guidelines of what you want in Mr. Right, say, six-feet tall, you’ll open your heart to a wider variety of great guys.”